It's coming!
I'm going to go on vacation with my husband (just Tony and I) for a whole week. We are going to Colorado and the kids are staying home with my mom starting MONDAY!!!!!
Can you tell I'm excited?
It's partly because I haven't had a whole lot of time with Tony lately. It's funny. Our weeknights are filled most of the time with one event or another. We make time for each other, but baseball season isn't the best time for that. He umpires for Little League and that takes quite a bit of time. It doesn't bother me that much...except when I need something from him and he has a game. He enjoys it, though, and honestly, I think it's cool.
The other reason I'm excited is because we are going away for a week. We just haven't done that before. We didn't have a honeymoon because I had to be back to work Monday after we got married on Saturday. We have done a weekend before, and we had trips with the kids, but just the two of us is not something we've done.
We are going to Colorado. We are going white water rafting one day. I don't really have other plans. I know that there is stuff to do, so that's cool. Tony and I really looked into what there is to do, so we know what's around (though any suggestions are still welcome).
Our original plan for this vacation was Boston. That didn't work out. My mom is letting us use her timeshare thing, and the one in that area was booked...and we looked in January. So we looked and looked. Finally, after searching for quite some time, we decided on Colorado. I just hope it doesn't rain the whole time. The weather report (which I have been watching closely) says it will be partly cloudy or mostly sunny the whole time. Let's just hope that sticks, because there is a storm that is supposed to hit Friday and Saturday. The temperature is going to be in the high 60's, which is really cold to me (I'm a So Cal girl, I like the temperature at about 80-90), but I'll wear my winter gear and be fine. White water rafting will be done in wet suits, so that's no big deal.
I'm so excited!!! I love my kids, and that's why I need a vacation. Tony and I need to get away for a little while. We'll come back refreshed and ready to take on the summer...and the next 10 years.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Does this make me a bad parent?
Today, when Micah came home from school, Zoe picked a fight with him.
I let Micah kick her.
I'll clarify.
I still feel kinda bad, though.
Micah came home and didn't have any homework because this week is state testing. He's really been doing well, and I have no problems with his attitude coming from his teachers this week. He was happy when he walked in the door.
Zoe decided that she was going to follow Micah to his room. I don't usually intervene, because sometimes he lets the girls in, sometimes he doesn't. I leave that to him. It's his choice. When he doesn't want them in, he is allowed to tell them "get out of my room."
Zoe was in a particularly irritating mood (so was Ali) all day, and the girls have been mad at each other off and on all day. This made me watchful when Zoe went to play with her brother. I'm listening from the living room down the hall, and I hear, "NO, get out!" I got up. I went to the door and told Zoe to leave Micah's room. At this point, I know Micah is irritated, and I know Zoe is pestering him, and that really isn't a good combination. It's a brother-sister thing, ya know?
The next move was totally preventable. I could have stopped the whole thing before it happened. Zoe took a crayon from Micah, and I knew that that had to have been what irritated him before. Zoe wasn't listening to me or Micah, so there were going to be consequences. I decided at that point to allow Micah to defend his space. Micah took back the crayon and kicked his sister.
First, before you defenders of Zoe are outraged that I would allow my kid to harm another, I want to tell you that Micah doesn't hurt anyone when he strikes the first time. There are warning shots. Always. It's just how Micah operates. He has a routine, and this is definitely part of it. He is a peaceful kid. He doesn't want to hurt anyone. I know that. It's going through my mind that he isn't really going to hurt his sister at first. Especially since he isn't really in a bad mood to start with.
So I let him kick her. Just once. I then intervened and took Zoe out of Micah's room and took her to her time out on her bed. I explained all about how she is not allowed to just take things from Micah without asking, and that if she wants to go into Micah's room, she needs to ask. She continues her time-out after I have (without her really knowing) check out her leg where he kicked her for bruises or marks of any kind. None. Just as I thought. Warning shot.
Zoe's fine, Micah is calm once she is out of his room, and all is quiet in the house again. So...should I have intervened earlier? Should I let him fire off more than the warning shot? I'm still questioning myself. I just hope Zoe learned her lesson.
I let Micah kick her.
I'll clarify.
I still feel kinda bad, though.
Micah came home and didn't have any homework because this week is state testing. He's really been doing well, and I have no problems with his attitude coming from his teachers this week. He was happy when he walked in the door.
Zoe decided that she was going to follow Micah to his room. I don't usually intervene, because sometimes he lets the girls in, sometimes he doesn't. I leave that to him. It's his choice. When he doesn't want them in, he is allowed to tell them "get out of my room."
Zoe was in a particularly irritating mood (so was Ali) all day, and the girls have been mad at each other off and on all day. This made me watchful when Zoe went to play with her brother. I'm listening from the living room down the hall, and I hear, "NO, get out!" I got up. I went to the door and told Zoe to leave Micah's room. At this point, I know Micah is irritated, and I know Zoe is pestering him, and that really isn't a good combination. It's a brother-sister thing, ya know?
The next move was totally preventable. I could have stopped the whole thing before it happened. Zoe took a crayon from Micah, and I knew that that had to have been what irritated him before. Zoe wasn't listening to me or Micah, so there were going to be consequences. I decided at that point to allow Micah to defend his space. Micah took back the crayon and kicked his sister.
First, before you defenders of Zoe are outraged that I would allow my kid to harm another, I want to tell you that Micah doesn't hurt anyone when he strikes the first time. There are warning shots. Always. It's just how Micah operates. He has a routine, and this is definitely part of it. He is a peaceful kid. He doesn't want to hurt anyone. I know that. It's going through my mind that he isn't really going to hurt his sister at first. Especially since he isn't really in a bad mood to start with.
So I let him kick her. Just once. I then intervened and took Zoe out of Micah's room and took her to her time out on her bed. I explained all about how she is not allowed to just take things from Micah without asking, and that if she wants to go into Micah's room, she needs to ask. She continues her time-out after I have (without her really knowing) check out her leg where he kicked her for bruises or marks of any kind. None. Just as I thought. Warning shot.
Zoe's fine, Micah is calm once she is out of his room, and all is quiet in the house again. So...should I have intervened earlier? Should I let him fire off more than the warning shot? I'm still questioning myself. I just hope Zoe learned her lesson.
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